What If There Is No Blueprint For Your Life

in Cultivating Clarity


“The deepest secret is that life is not a process of discovery, but a process of creation. You are not discovering yourself, but creating yourself anew. Seek, therefore, not to find out who you are, seek to determine who you want to be.” ~ Neal Donald Walsh

After a strenuous afternoon of climbing up the face of a steep mountainside in the hot sun, two rock climbers – Pat and Andy – finally reached a plateau. It was an idyllic setting with a clear, cool glacial stream running through the alpine meadow. They just started drinking the refreshing water and bathing in the stream when a large mountain goat came charging into the clearing and headed straight for them.

Pat’s first reaction was to scramble into a nearby small cave, leaving the goat to chase after Andy, who ran halfway around the clearing and desperately climbed up a small tree. The goat began ramming the tree so hard that it was all Andy could do to hang on as it swayed back and forth. Suddenly Pat came out of his cave and ran around the clearing, yelling and shouting. The goat dashed off after Pat, almost catching up with him before Pat had made a complete circle and slipped back inside the cave. Then the goad spotted Andy, who had started down the tree. He raced over to the tree and resumed his violent ramming of the trunk.

Just as Andy was losing his grip and about to fall, Pat came running around the clearing yelling and screaming again, luring the goat away from the tree, just before diving back into the cave. The goat then spotted Andy coming down the tree and ran over to ram it again. By this time, Andy finally had a good grip on the tree. He bellowed down at Pat in the cave, “Why don’t you stay in that cave and be patient. We can wait out this goat until he’s tired. This too shall pass.” Pat yelled back, “You wouldn’t be handing out all that fancy advice if you saw the size of the bear that’s sleeping in here!” *

We live in a noisy world with many bellowing voices seeking to give us advice on how we should live our lives. Truth is, some of these voices come from well intended people like our parents, teachers, pastors, spiritual guides, friends, and authors. While other voices we hear are found in magazines, movies, music, blogs and on YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. And finally, there are the voices we hear over and over in our head – the voices that can be ruthless, critical, and demanding.

Wherever the advice is coming from, you and I would be wise to remember that there is no-one-size-fits-all when we are dealing with our personal lives, relationships, careers and overall well-being.

To that end, over the next few blog posts we are going to uncover 5 key principles or axioms by American psychiatrist Dr. Milton Erickson that could revolutionize the way you see yourself, and therefore, the way you create your future.

Until next time…
Be You. Be Unitas.


*Short story is from the book, The Leadership Digest by Jim Clemmer

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