stop burning the candles

Do You Feel Like You’re Burning Out

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“Dieter Rams was the lead designer at Braun for many years. He is driven by the idea that almost everything is noise. He believes very few things are essential. His job is to filter through that noise until he gets to the essence. For example, as a young twenty-four-year-old at the company he was asked to collaborate on a record player. The norm at the time was to cover the turntable in a solid wooden lid or even to incorporate the player into a piece of living room furniture.” ~ Greg McKeown

To-do list

Moving Beyond Your To-Do List

in Art of Listening, Cultivating Clarity

Have you ever said, or maybe heard someone say, “I need to carve out time for…

my family, the kids, my spouse, exercising, journaling, meditating, cooking, creating, relaxing.”?

Whatever the reason, the phrase “carving out time” was used with the intention of squeezing or manipulating one more good thing into your daily schedule. Unwittingly, our lives can quickly be driven by our list of things-to-do; the tyranny of the urgent. And if we’re not careful, we can quickly fall into the belief that our life is all about efficiency and productivity.


You Are Not Broken

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“…To make any good decisions, we have to understand what we are choosing. We need good information that we can trust will be true. If we feel damaged or defective, how can we possibly trust what we feel or believe, what our heart tells us is true, or what our intuitive wisdom senses is the right choice? If we cannot trust our own tools or instruments, how can we build with confidence anything that will feel sturdy and whole?” ~ Wayne Muller

Unlearning Back to God

Unlearning Your Way Back To God

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It’s been almost a year since I last sat down to write a blog post. I confess it’s the need to provide and the fear of the unknown that keeps me from pursuing this love, this passion. And it’s not right. Because the truth is, I love the way words form on paper, or, in this case, on the screen. I love how thoughts and ideas emerge, and, to be honest, it feels like I become a channel of thought, consciousness and discovery.

Writing creates a sense of wonder and gratitude within me.

So today, and maybe for the next while, I’ve decided to share a few thoughts from other writers, other thought leaders with you. Why? Because these men and women have played a key role in shaping how I see life, myself, God, work, and relationship.


Leverage Your Problem For Breakthrough Results

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The whole point of the External Problem is to manifest our Internal Problem. And ultimately, these first two levels of problem are focused on uncovering the key question that we’re all silently asking ourselves: Who am I?

Perhaps this is why C.S. Lewis wrote, “Pain insists upon being attended to. God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our consciences, but shouts in our pains. It is his megaphone to rouse a deaf world.”

The external problem in your life today is acting like a megaphone or amplifier to rouse your attention – to help you get-in-tune with your internal problem – so that you can embrace your full humanity and experience breakthrough results.

Leverage the problem

The 3 Levels Of Problem

in Cultivating Clarity, Leverage the problem

In our last post, we left Steve in a predicament. Despite wanting to make a significant transition in his career, he feels uncertain about starting over and leaving his comfortable lifestyle behind.

So what should Steve do?

Should he stay where he’s at and enjoy the perks of being a business manager with an international firm while earning a six-figure salary, or should he go with his gut and leave it all behind to pursue a new career in sport medicine?

And this leads me to ask another question.

What do you want

What Would You Do

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Have you ever been somewhere, or with someone, and silently asked yourself, “What am I doing here?”

It was another Monday morning meeting when Steve had this very thought resonate within his mind like a repeating chorus in a pop song. “What am I doing here?” Steve thought to himself over and over as Janice, the Vice President of Sales, was discussing quarterly revenues about a tech product he wasn’t that crazy about.

Steve had been with the same Fortune 100 technology company since he graduated with his Masters in Business six years ago. And even though he was now a team manger with his own corner office, he didn’t feel like he belonged. He felt like something was missing.

road less taken

Traveling The Road Less Taken

in Cultivating Clarity, Master your Mission

“Why does it have to be so hard?” Aidan asked just before crawling into bed. And then without much hesitation, he looked into my eyes and responded, “I guess if it was easy, more people would do it.”

My son was referring to the fact that on this Friday night he was going to bed at his regular bedtime so that he could be well rested for his 8:15am goalie clinic the next morning. At the age of 12, Aidan already understands that his audacious goals and dreams come at a cost.

Jazz Trio

Do Our Choices Determine Who We Are

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Have you ever wondered why some people seem to catch all the breaks? Or why that one couple seems to have such a great marriage while yours feels lukewarm at best? Have you ever questioned if God really exists, and, if so, why the world is so screwed up? Have you every wondered why some people land great jobs, or create amazing companies, and others live pay cheque to pay cheque hoping they can pay this month’s rent?

Is the life we experience simply a grand total of all the choices we’ve made to this point? Do some people thrive because they set compelling goals for themselves and then followed them up with passion, determination and perseverance?

Feeling Upset

When Someone Gets Under-Your-Skin

in Art of Listening, Cultivating Clarity

Okay, this is confession time. Have you ever been with someone, played a game, or gone to an event that just seemed to bring out the ‘worst’ in you? I know I have.

And to be very honest, I’m writing these words the morning after one of those nights. Last night I “lost it” on a ref after he called a goal on a shot that never crossed the goal line. And to make matters worse, it happened to be the winning goal in a 2-1 loss, in a game our team needed to win. To say the least, I was feeling very frustrated and upset.